Parenthood isn’t easy. It’s a roller coaster ride of emotions, guilt, dilemmas and insecurities. Many of us have gone through the guilt of missing our child’s sports day or not being around to see the first baby steps. We often have the feeling that we are not participating enough in our child’s growth or whether we are loosing the track of their progress both at personal and education front.

While the challenges we face are many and can vary we need to understand what the problem or difficulty we are facing? It can be joining work after a long break; you have a new Nanny and you need to train her according to the requirements all over again; Summer break is there and you don’t know how to face the child at home being at work whole day. We Need to understand that once we are able to diagnose the issue, we will always have options to fix it and for that we need to communicate and talk about it. Speaking to self is the first step to analyze the core issue, reaching out to spouse or friend will also let you explore more options. It’s always good to seek help from a counselling service as sometimes you know the plan of action but you need someone to validate your thoughts without any biases and other priorities.

Majority of the parents I have counselled have shared that they feel bad that they are not able to give due time to their children and participate in their progress. Even for a child also it is equally challenging to adapt to the routine of the parents but the good thing is that children can be moulded the way we want. They will understand the challenges of the parents provided the members of the family are at par with each other. Many times, I have realized during the session that there are many things which parents are realizing for the first time and likewise.

We can work on any issue and resolve any situation; all we need to have is a sorted mind and plan of action. You need to plan your transitions, set your priorities, seek intervention and help and take the plunge.

We can work on any issue and resolve any situation; all we need to have is a sorted mind and plan of action.

So, the key to balance work and family is to breakdown the complications, difficulties or problems and then in the process you will find pieces to join the puzzle. Clarity on the issues you are facing and the strategies to manage them will help in keeping both work and the parent you want to be to your child.

There is always a way out. Seek guidance.